Last month Bob Sutton wrote a post listing the important mindsets of a good manager. It got me thinking about the important mindsets for a good mentor. Here's my top 10.
- You really care about the person you're mentoring. You want them to succeed.
- You're curious and intensely interested in them as a person
- You're not competing with them
- You don't have all the answers and know you don't need to
- They can solve many of their own issues
- Your the facilitator, not the expert
- In most cases there's no single right answer
- It's better to engage in dialogue than lecture
- A good question is often better than a good answer
- Trust is essential. It takes time and effort to build and can evaporate in an instance. TRUST = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) / self interest
What mindsets would you add?
Thanks to Christian Dahmen for a excellent conversation last week that helped me write this list.